Abortion and adoption are two of three of your pregnancy options. If you’re trying to decide between the two, you’ve likely ruled out parenting. 

When weighing options that will alter the course of your life, start by committing to being honest with yourself. This decision will impact you the most, so distance yourself from any pressure and focus on figuring out which one fits your future the best.

Similarities & Differences

Abortion and adoption have one major similarity and a handful of significant differences.

Both options mean foregoing parenting, but the similarities stop there.

Adoption involves carrying the pregnancy to term and giving a couple a chance to grow their family. In an abortion you do not carry to term, you decide to use either drugs or a surgical procedure to end the pregnancy early.

With adoption, there is personal sacrifice due to being pregnant and then placing the child with their new family at the end. However, this could be the choice for you if you still want to bring a child into the world and give them an opportunity for a better life.

The choice is yours. Thinking through both of them can help you feel more confident.

Questions to Consider When Comparing Options

Here’s an exercise to help you think through adoption and abortion. 

First, picture your life after each option. Then, ask yourself these questions one by one. If you want, journal your answers as you go.

  • How would you feel after this choice?
  • What are the positives and negatives?
  • Do you feel comfortable with this becoming a part of your life story?
  • How would you be different after? What would change?

Next, ask yourself questions about the relationship you’d have with the potential child. This is the most major difference between the two options.

  • Are you comfortable having or not having a relationship with your child?
  • Do you have any feelings or emotions you’ve been suppressing?
  • How would the options impact your finances, career, or education?

Reflect on your responses. Maybe even put them away for a day and come back to them. It’s an important decision and one only you can make.

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We understand how personal an unexpected pregnancy can be, but you don’t have to go it alone. We’re here to support you and provide complimentary pregnancy services. We can listen as you share your thoughts and ask questions in a confidential setting.

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