You are not legally required to tell your partner which decision you choose. However, many women in healthy relationships find sharing their decision with their partners worthwhile.
If you are uncomfortable telling your partner your decision, uncovering why may be a good idea.
Do You Feel Safe?
If you don’t want to tell your partner about your choice because you are in an unsafe relationship, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE. The advocate you speak with will help you determine the best plan to proceed safely.
Abusive behavior in relationships often escalates during pregnancy. If you are in danger, contact the hotline as soon as possible for help.
Do You Feel Pressured?
The decision for the outcome of your pregnancy belongs only to you. No one should attempt to force or pressure you to make a decision that makes you uncomfortable.
Pressure can be either direct or indirect. Direct pressure may look like your partner telling you what to do about the pregnancy or even threatening you if you do not comply with his demands. Indirect pressure can be more manipulative and, even if it is subconscious on his part, may cause you to doubt or fear your own decision.
Should You Tell Your Partner?
If you are in a healthy relationship, consider discussing your decision with your partner. Solving significant issues like an unexpected pregnancy can grow your relationship, while hiding big decisions from each other can lead to feelings of resentment and distrust.
If you need help keeping the conversation productive, follow these communication tips:
- Choose the right time and place. Start the conversation in an area that is comfortable for you both when you are not rushed or busy with other things.
- Set boundaries:
- Keep an open mind.
- Understand your options so you can have an informed conversation.
- Stay calm: Don’t yell or insult your partner’s opinions.
If you need help keeping the conversation moving forward, consider asking a third party to help. Choose an unbiased friend, family member, or professional counselor that can guide the conversation.
How Can We Help?
Women’s Care Center offers medical services that will give you the information you need to make a confident choice. Contact us today to schedule your complimentary appointment.